Last week, the
221st General Assembly of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) the
Christian denomination in which I am an ordained Teaching Elder, was meeting in
Detroit, Michigan. If you weren’t
napping during the evening news or snoozing through the Sunday papers, you
probably know about the two decisions of our church’s highest council that hit
all the headlines. (To be sure, the General Assembly made decisions,
took many actions, and approved scads of recommendations—and all but two or
three failed to make headline news!
Unfortunately, this is not uncommon.)
The Assembly
approved an authoritative interpretation that allows PCUSA Teaching Elders
(ministers/pastors) and congregations—in states where it is legal—to celebrate same-gender
marriages. What you probably DID NOT
READ OR HEAR was that the same authoritative interpretation also allows PCUSA
Teaching Elders and congregations the right to decline participating in such
celebrations for reasons of conscience and conviction. In practice—this secondary, non-headline
grabbing part, has always been true of any marriage—ministers and congregations
could and still can decline any request if they believed the marriage was or is
unwise.
The Assembly
also voted narrowly (310 in favor to 303 against) to redirect some of our
financial investments with respect to three North American companies by
“divesting” our financial holdings in our investment portfolios. After years of corporate engagement, these
companies have consistently refused to address changes in business practices or
shift away from taking advantage of violence and occupation in the Middle East
to make corporate profits—from which our church’s portfolio benefited,
too. And while there have been
wide-ranging condemnations of this action from the Jewish community and others,
(including churches and members who disagreed) I believe it’s important to keep
in mind that this action DID NOT remove any money from the nation of Israel,
nor did it withdraw our support from a two-state solution, nor does it presume
to affect our nation’s historic alliance, support, or commitment to Israel’s
statehood.
So, for a week
now, e-mails, telephone calls, and letters—both in support of these and other
actions as well as to decry them—have been hot and heavy for many of my colleagues
in local congregations, judicatories, and national offices. And while I haven’t faced angry parishioners or
distraught members of my Township, it’s been a hard week of fallout for
me. It’s been hard, because I’ve
personally become aware of the acute pain that is being felt in real-life relationships—including
some of my own—BECAUSE of a General Assembly.
Let me be
clear. Most of us in the PCUSA have
grown accustomed to taking each General Assembly with a grain of salt. We almost never make headlines. Consider that we’ve been arguing and debating
over issues of homosexuality, sex, marriage, fidelity and chastity, and same-sex
marriage for nearly 40 years. This year
I celebrated 19 years of ordained ministry.
In that time, I’ve had to vote at least once each year on an issue
related to homosexuality in our church and I’ve never received an angry phone
call or e-mail from a church member, or an inquiring phone call or e-mail from
a news reporter—and I still haven’t!
And if I had one
reaction or one hope as a result of the General Assembly’s action this time it
would be that maybe we can take this topic of the table—as in for good. I don’t want to have to ever talk about it
again! I’m weary of it, worn down, and
feel mostly beaten.
But we can’t!
In the week
since General Assembly the news has invaded not the governing body but our
constituent churches. Those of us who
“weren’t there” in the assembly hall to hear the arguments and give witness to
the presence of the Holy Spirit and feel the breath of God and the winds of
change on our faces have been left back at home to pick up the pieces. And we’re definitely not used to the
shock-waves of all the attention!
This time, it’s
different.
This week, I
listened to a colleague who had important personal friendships and ministerial
relationships with Jewish friends and congregational leaders. He’s not getting phone calls, e-mails and
letters, either—they’re not even calling to say “goodbye”—because they disagree
with what they’ve heard in the news reports about the actions of the General
Assembly.
This week, in my
own family the General Assembly’s actions are a matter of contention,
controversy, and pain. My wife is Catholic. Our churches and faiths are not of one voice
on the issue of same-sex marriage. And
what many of my colleagues and friends can celebrate as a moment of joy and
triumph has been for me a bitter knife plunged into my own marital
relationship.
This week, while
some “hooray” the turning tide, others I know are left with open wounds. In an almost, “Thank God the fighting is
over” comment, one of my colleagues indicated relations are no longer about
fighting the denomination—the evangelical cause has lost; “there’s only room
now for sharing the truth in love,” he said, promising that’s what he intended
to do.
The new reality
in my beloved PCUSA has come at a great PERSONAL cost for many of us. Those who’ve been fighting for years would
say, “of course,” even that their cost has been so great for so long. But this isn’t because some people are mad or
uncomfortable; it’s not that there will be painful votes by sessions and
congregations to leave our denomination for another. It’s not just the brokenness of a theological
divide in the sanctuary when we gather for presbytery meetings.
There’s actually
very real pain and suffering. So much
so, that if we could have given witness to it at the General Assembly, maybe
the Spirit would have blown another way.
But it
didn’t.
Now, we face the
real, authentic, genuine pain. And if
people out there think the hard work’s over—then our victory is just the pride
of separation and division. And on each
of these issues, I believe the hope of the General Assembly was to in some
measure OVERCOME the specter of separation and division.
So now, what
we’re going to be testing, isn’t how far we can press a fragile alliance toward
one view or the other, but our commitment to loving one another, our agility at
helping to bind up one another’s wounds, and our obligation to beat our swords
into plowshares—both the literal and figurative.
Now, all of us in
the whole of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) must face the old nemesis to any
and every marriage—the challenges of brokenness and the search for
reconciliation! And that isn’t what
happens when people just leave!
The question for
me is this: What will the world make of us now?
If we plan on
staking a claim to prophetic actions and hope-filled proclamation, what will
the world say of us or make of us if all we’re interested in is conquer and
divide. If that’s all the hope we can
demonstrate, we don’t deserve the headlines or the influence.
But, if they can
see that we are Christians by our LOVE—for one another—we may be given
headline-worthy ministry at the 222nd General Assembly in 2016.